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Feeling Lonely in a Relationship — When Love Looks Fine (Part 11)

24/08/202608/08/2026 by Kam Su Jin

Illustration of woman alone at a candlelit restaurant table, the ache of feeling lonely in a relationship.

This entry is part 11 of 15 in the series Why You Can't Stop People Pleasing

You’re liked, you’re connected, your life looks full — so why the ache? Feeling lonely in a relationship often starts with the version of you that shows up.

Approval Seeking — Why Validation Never Feels Like Enough (Part 2)

15/08/202630/07/2026 by Kam Su Jin

Illustration of woman checking her phone in an empty meeting room, approval seeking running its quiet reset.

This entry is part 2 of 15 in the series Why You Can't Stop People Pleasing

Approval seeking resets after every interaction. The monitoring system starts over every time. Here’s why validation never feels like enough.

Approval Seeking — When Pleasing Others Becomes Your Identity (Part 7)

31/08/202614/06/2026 by Kam Su Jin

Illustration of woman overlooking Jeju's coastal cliffs at sunset, approval seeking beneath years of being useful.

This entry is part 7 of 10 in the series The Cost of Being Easy

Approval seeking becomes personality when helpfulness is the only way you learned to be loved. Understand how performance replaces authenticity.