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Talking Stage — Dating Someone You Haven’t Agreed to Date (Part 1)

01/11/2026 by Kam Su Jin

Illustration of the talking stage, a young woman smiling at a text on her phone in bed.

This entry is part 1 of 1 in the series The Words We Date By — General

The talking stage has the intensity of a relationship without the agreement. What it is, why nobody defines it, and where you actually stand.

Is a Situationship Bad? What You Get and What It Costs (Part 6)

18/08/2026 by Kam Su Jin

Illustration of a woman alone at an outdoor Yeonnam-dong table, drink in front — is a situationship bad, she wonders.

This entry is part 6 of 12 in the series Why You Keep Almost Choosing This

Is a situationship bad? If you’re still in it, you’re getting something real — the honest answer weighs what it gives against what it quietly costs.

One Sided Situationship — Why One Person Always Wants More (Part 4)

17/08/2026 by Kam Su Jin

Illustration of a couple walking through a Seoul market, side by side but looking different ways — a one sided situationship.

This entry is part 4 of 12 in the series Why You Keep Almost Choosing This

It’s rarely equal. A one sided situationship starts unequal and stays that way — the one who wants less holds the power, and the one who wants more slowly shrinks.

Signs of a Situationship — Why They Start Before You Notice (Part 2)

16/08/2026 by Kam Su Jin

Illustration of a couple walking through an Ikseon-dong alley, close but not quite together — the early signs of a situationship.

This entry is part 2 of 12 in the series Why You Keep Almost Choosing This

Nobody decides to start one — they just don’t decide not to. The early signs of a situationship show up before it has a name, in the choices no one quite makes.