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Identity at Work — The Two Versions Running in Parallel (Part 3)

22/08/202614/07/2026 by Kam Su Jin

Illustrated woman faces her reflection in the elevator. Floor 14. The work identity split — one version going up, the other watching.

This entry is part 3 of 5 in the series When You're Good at a Job You Don't Love

She’s precise at 9 AM and empty by evening — two real versions of the same identity at work. This is what happens when neither one wins.

Workplace Recognition Identity — The Wrong Version Confirmed (Part 2)

31/08/202613/07/2026 by Kam Su Jin

Illustrated woman listens as her manager speaks. Workplace recognition identity — the praise is meant well. It doesn't quite reach her.

This entry is part 2 of 5 in the series When You're Good at a Job You Don't Love

When workplace recognition identity confirms your output but not you, the praise keeps coming year after year — and none of it lands where it should.

Self Abandonment — When No One Asked What You Wanted (Part 10)

31/08/202615/06/2026 by Kam Su Jin

Illustration of woman sitting between seaside cliffs in Goseong, self abandonment settling in as she faces the question.

This entry is part 10 of 10 in the series The Cost of Being Easy

Self abandonment is the quiet erasure of yourself for others’ comfort. Learn the signs, the patterns, and how to return to who you were before disappearing.

Approval Seeking — When Pleasing Others Becomes Your Identity (Part 7)

31/08/202614/06/2026 by Kam Su Jin

Illustration of woman overlooking Jeju's coastal cliffs at sunset, approval seeking beneath years of being useful.

This entry is part 7 of 10 in the series The Cost of Being Easy

Approval seeking becomes personality when helpfulness is the only way you learned to be loved. Understand how performance replaces authenticity.